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Life is full of choices. You chose everything. There are times when you can’t control what happens to you, but how you respond to it is your choice. It’s all about choices. From big things to the little things. “The life you have now came about from the choices you made in the past. If you don’t like it, then start making better choices.”

I chose to be around and hang and talk to people that make me happy. If I’m hanging with people and at the end of the day I don’t feel good from hanging with them, then I won’t do it that much anymore. I would rather spend time with people that make me feel good. People who respect me and my decisions and what I do in life. I would rather have no friends than have all my friends not care about me or me make me happy.

Along with that, I chose to focus my attention and energy on people that matter. People who are important to me and who also focus on me and put effort into me. If I put energy into someone and they don’t care about me or don’t give me any back, then I’m wasting that energy because it could be put towards someone who actually does care and wants my attention. I’m always the one putting energy towards people and doing stuff like that, so every once and a while I don’t do as much. I sit back and I see who misses me and the effort I give. Who wants to communicate and do things with me. By doing this, I see who I’m actually important to and then I adjust my efforts to those people. I’m not going to waste my energy on people who don’t want it or who don’t put any back to me. I have a lot of great energy and I like to give to people who want it and who are willing to do things to show they want it.

I chose to be myself. No matter who I’m with, it’s still the same me. I don’t change how I act for different people. I don’t change who I am so people will like me. “Being yourself and telling the truth may not get you a lot of friends but it will get you the right ones.” I stick by my morals and my beliefs and am willing to fight for myself, for what I think and anything else I care about, no matter who or what I’m up against. If people don’t like who I am, then they better go somewhere else because I’m not changing.

I chose to follow my heart. My heart knows what I want. Always. No questions asked. There could be many reasons why I should do something, but if it doesn’t feel right, then I don’t do it. I pay attention to that feeling. It even works the other way. There were many reasons why I shouldn’t have started dating my girlfriend, but no matter how many reasons there were, the one reason I did it was because my heart knew it was right to do so. And let me tell you that that action was the one that truly showed that I should never doubt my heart. I have never doubted or second guessed my heart and feelings since. “Follow your heart because if you follow your mind, you’ll act on logic and logic doesn’t always lead to happiness”

I chose to do what I want. I make choices that are the best for me and what make me happy. I wanted to commute instead of dorm and I got a lot of hate for it, but I stuck by my guns and did it anyway and it was definitely the right decision. I also chose to live a simple life and that’s easy because it comes from doing the things I said above. I live my life by doing what makes me happy. It’s no one else’s life but mine, so I’m not going to let anyone else run for me. I try to spend every minute I can, doing something that makes me happy, no matter how big or small.

Life is short. It flies by. I’m going into my 4th year of college and it feels like it was only yesterday that it was the day before I moved into my dorm and my girlfriend and I were outside looking at the stars. Don’t waste time being unhappy. Start now to be happy. Don’t wait. You don’t want to look back and see all the time that you could have been happy but instead you were unhappy. In the end, it’s all about choices. Your life and everything in it is controlled by your choices. “May your choices reflect your hopes, not your fears”

I didn’t watch the whole documentary. After a few episodes, it was too painful. I kept wanting to scream at Pam! It took me so long to do so many important things, it’s just hard to accept I spent so many years being less happy than I could have been. Jim was five feet from my desk and it took me four years to get to him. It’d be great if people saw this documentary and learned from my mistakes. Not that I’m a tragic person, I’m really happy now, but it would just make my heart soar if someone out there saw this and she said to herself, “be strong, trust yourself, love yourself, conquer your fears, just go after what you want and act fast because life just isn’t that long.”

(Source: pakhara)

the office, the best of Jim and Pam

"Jim, I called off my wedding because of you. And now we’re not even friends. And things are just, like, weird between us, and that sucks. And I miss you. You were my best friend before you went to Stamford. And I really miss you. I shouldn’t have been with Roy. And there were a lot of reasons to call off my wedding. But the truth is, I didn’t care about any of those reasons until I met you. And now you’re with someone else. And that’s fine. It’s, whatever, that’s not what I’m … The thing that I’m just trying to say to you, Jim, and to everyone else in the circle, I guess, is that I miss having fun with you. Just you, not everyone in the circle."

To be honest, I still can’t believe he didn’t call her back.

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"We are taught you must blame your father, your sisters, your brothers, the school, the teachers — you can blame anyone but never blame yourself. It’s never your fault. But it’s always your fault, because if you wanted to change, you’re the one who has got to change. It’s as simple as that, isn’t it?"

- Katherine Hepburn (via wmw-wifemomwoman)

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